The Art of Seduction:
We talked about the mindset, now we’re going to talk about what kind of behavior seduces a man. I cannot stress this enough: The mindset is required for all this to work. As I said before, men are going to measure their experience with you based entirely on how it feels when they’re with you.
If it feels good, he’ll come back for more. If it feels exciting, sexy and fun… he’ll become addicted to you. You will be seducing him.
If you want to be great at seducing men, then it’s important that you actually truly like, love and enjoy men in general.
I realize that it’s not politically correct to say in this day and age, but quite frankly, men are attracted to feminine women.
Generally speaking, women aren’t attracted to men that act like women, so why would we expect men to be attracted to women who act like men?
I’m strictly speaking in terms of what men are attracted to—this is not a political statement or an assertion on how women should act. I’m simply pointing out what men are attracted to.
So if you want to be great at seducing men, embrace your femininity. Don’t be afraid to be girly.
Bring your feminine essence to your interactions.
Don’t compete with him, don’t challenge him, don’t emasculate him.
Instead, be soft and receive him.
When a woman feels like a woman, her presence makes the man feel like the man. In this way, his experience of life feels like more than it would feel like if he were on his own. Her presence brings an added dimension to his life.
This only happens if you’re bringing feminine energy to the relationship, though. If you’re not, he won’t be able to describe it, but he’ll feel like something essential is missing from the relationship with you (and it’s highly likely he will continue to seek out this dimension until he finds a woman who does bring feminine energy to the relationship).
However, Dont Be Mistaken….
Being feminine doesn’t mean you’re weak or dumb or selling out women. There is tremendous strength in fully embracing your femininity—it is highly attractive and therefore, highly influential. There’s tremendous intelligence in embracing your femininity, too—what could be more intelligent than embracing an energy that gets you the results you want?
If you want to be a great seductress, then you need to know what to ignore and what to embrace. Embrace what gets you results. Ignore what doesn’t (and especially ignore anything designed to upset, worry or anger you).
Receive him… and he’ll find you irresistible.
When you’re with him, be positive and happy. Complaining and fighting is not an energy men want to be around. The same goes for cattiness, arrogance and bashing other women—let go of all those behaviors … they are poison to a seductress.
Be curious: Be intensely interested in his ideas, his goals, his dreams, his viewpoints and his “mission.” Enjoy his jokes and his way of being.
Contrary to what most people believe, men are actually starved for appreciation, acceptance, and admiration. The truth is, men are generally treated as society’s punching bag—men are expected to absorb negativity from all angles without complaint… whether it’s from his nagging girlfriend, his unappreciative boss, his undependable friends, media portrayals of men, etc.
- It’s terrifying and sad, but women today are taught that men are attracted to women who are difficult and challenging… but this simply doesn’t work…
The seductress knows that the most irresistible energy to a man is a woman who entirely appreciates, accepts and enjoys him without needing anything from him. That is incredibly seductive to a man… that is the woman a man wants to have in his life, all to himself.
Wait… Why am I doing all this stuff and he’s doing nothing?
Some of you will ask: “Why does the woman have to do all this stuff just to get a man?
A real man should step up, …”
But…Ask Yourself This…
Why would a man step up for something or someone he does not value. That is like giving someone an empty box and telling them to cherish it with their life, although there is no reward inside.
Here’s the deal: I’m telling you how to be effective at seducing a man.
Nobody is forcing you to seduce a man. Nobody is forcing you to be in a relationship. Nobody is forcing you to do anything with a guy…
But… if you’re interested in being in a relationship, doesn’t it make sense to know what works?
- You are in control here… so choose the guy you want.
- You are in control … so if he’s not measuring up, choose to let him disappear from your attention entirely.
- You are in control … so if you’re not getting what you want, choose to move on and get what you do want.
Now since you’re in control of the seduction, one of the requirements is…
He’s actively engaged when you’re with him.
As a seductress, you are nobody’s “dancing monkey.” You are not jumping through hoops to impress a guy.
When you’re with him (or in communication with him), you’re creating desire. But when you’re not available, don’t worry about him fluttering away… so long as you’re creating interest, you can be confident that his desire for you will grow more and more even when you’re not around. So don’t be afraid of ignoring him if you’re not available (at the same time, there’s no reason to pretend to be unavailable because some silly book told you to wait three days before calling or texting him or something ridiculous like that)…
Instead, you are giving people the opportunity to participate in a seduction.
This means that if they want to keep getting your attention, they need to be actively engaged in the process.
This means you need to create the space necessary for him to reach for more of you.
It all starts with you!!!!
And, If you need me…
Don’t forget I am here to guide you through the process…